How We Got Gay is a 2013 English-language Documentary movie. How We Got Gay tells the incredible story of how gay men and women went from being the ultimate outsiders to occupying the halls of power, with a profound influence on our cultural, political and social lives. How we got gay features Peter Staley in the title role. How We Got Gay tells the incredible story of how gay men and women went from being the ultimate outsiders to occupying the halls of power, with a profound influence on our cultural, political and social lives.